Tips 4 You

do the 10 tips, ihope you can be a better person for your family,friend and all the people that near from you..

The FIRST secret - the power of THOUGHT. Love begins with our thoughts. We
become what we think about. Loving thoughts create loving experiences and loving
relationships. Affirmations can change our beliefs and thoughts about others and
ourselves. If we want to love someone, we need to consider his or her needs and
desires. Thinking about your ideal partner will help you recognise her when you
meet her.
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The SECOND secret - the power of RESPECT.
You cannot love anyone or anything
unless you first respect them. The first person you need to respect is yourself.
To begin to gain self-respect, ask yourself, What do I respect about myself? -
To gain respect for others, even those you may dislike, ask yourself, What do I
respect about them? -

The THIRD secret - the power of GIVING. If you want to receive love, all you
have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To
love is to give of yourself, freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of
kindness. Before committing to a relationship ask not what the other person will
be able to give to you, but rather what will you be able to give them. The
secret formula of a happy, lifelong, loving relationship is to always focus on
what you can give instead of what you can take.

The FOURTH secret - the power of FRIENDSHIP. To find a true love, you must first
find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other"s eyes, but
rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone
completely you must love him or her for who they are and not for what they look
like. Friendship is the soil through which love seeds grow. If you want to bring
love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The FIFTH secret - the power of TOUCH. Touch is one of the most powerful
expressions of love, breaking down barriers and bonding relationships. Touch
changes our physical and emotional states and makes us more receptive to love.
The SIXTH secret - the power of LETTING GO. If you love something, let it free.
If it comes back to you, it's yours, if it doesn"t, it never was. Even in a
loving relationship, people need their own space. If we want to learn to love,
we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love
means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions. Today I let go
of all my fears, the past has no power over me - today is the beginning of a new
life. -

The SEVENTH secret - the power of COMMUNICATION. When we learn to communicate
openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them.
Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be
afraid to say those three magic words: I Love You Never let an opportunity pass
to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could
be the last time you see him or her. If you were about to die but could make
telephone calls to the people you loved, who would you call, what would you say
and .. why are you waiting?

The EIGHTH secret -
The power of COMMITMENT. If you want to have love in
abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in
your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the TRUE test of love. If you want to
have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When
you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option.
Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The NINTH secret - the power of PASSION. Passion ignites love and keeps it
alive. Lasting passion does not come through physical attraction alone; it comes
from deep commitment, enthusiasm, interest and excitement. Passion can be
recreated by recreating past experiences. When you felt passionate spontaneity
and surprises produce passion. The essence of love and happiness are the same;
all we need to do is to live each day with passion.

The TENTH secret -
the power of TRUST. Trust is essential in all loving
relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and
the other person feels trapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love
someone completely unless you trust him or her completely. Act as if your
relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can
tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, . Do I trust them
completely and unreservedly? - If the answer is no -, think carefully before
making a commitment.



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"Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies." -- Oliver Goldsmith

Very few people recommend lying, but you might have your reasons. Whether you're an investigative journalist going undercover or you're being asked for your opinion on a horrendous bridesmaid dress that's already been paid for, the key to convincing someone you're telling the truth is to strike a good balance between fact and fiction. Ask yourself: "Who is more blameworthy, the liar or the believer in lies?"


Decide if what you are lying about is worth the effort and the potential consequences. It is a personal decision. You need to be realistic with yourself. It is easy to become a compulsive liar and ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation, and future opportunities and do the benefits of telling the lie outweigh the risks?

If you know you're going to have to lie, think of some specific true thing (place, person, event, story) that your lie will fit into and use those details if you are questioned. This gives you a bank of specific details to draw on so you don't have to keep making things up as you go along. The more things you have to lie about to support your original lie, the more likely you are to be tripped up. Lying is a bit like chess--you must always think ahead.

Anticipate what the person you're lying to is going to ask, and be prepared with a response.

Force yourself to believe your lie is truth. This will make you naturally act as if you were telling the truth. The trick is convincing your sub-conscious mind that you're telling the truth. An example of this may be, "Did I wreck the car? Well, I drove it into a wall. So, the wall wrecked the car. I just moved it!" In the immortal words of George Costanza, "It's not a lie if you believe it."

Slide the lie into a casual conversation. It's better to lie to the person in advance than have him question you later on the same topic. That way, the victim's mind has hours, possibly days to fill in the blanks, and if he/she does come back to question the story, you'll have a much easier time as your victim starts in on you. If the victim discovers your misdeed before you explain yourself, they'll have time to deduce what has happened with a certain degree of certainty before they ever even question you.

Look the person you are lying to in the eye. Don't look around. There are many subliminal messages people send when lying. Learn what they are and how to avoid them. Most professional lie detectors (e.g. law enforcement professionals) know what they are, and you should, too. The cops will make small talk with you to establish what your "normal" behaviors are. When they get down to the serious subject matter, they look for deviances in behavior. Polygraph machines work the same way.

Practice lying in front a mirror or video camera. Observe your facial expressions. Try making your eyes go big and letting your mouth hang open a little for an innocent/shocked look. Also, practice looking like you're holding back tears. When you smile, show your teeth a little and crinkle up your eyes and cheeks. This is a 'sincere' smile, an ear-to-ear one.

Make a truthful admission. If you sense that someone else suspects you of lying, admit to something small or untrue. They will take the bait and think that that is all you were lying about.

Follow through. Never forget about your lie, and treat it like it actually happened. Mention it in conversations the way you would if it was true. Silence about a certain subject can arouse suspicion, especially in retrospect.

Telling a lie is a lot like story telling; take the original concept and expand on it as necessary. Always keep the lie believable and simple. Add detail but not too much. Too many details are an obvious indicator of a liar.

People are likely to believe your lies if you are telling them what they want to hear. Politicians and cheating spouses tell these kinds of lies all the time.

The best practice is watching how you tell the truth, and imitating that. If you tap your feet or fidget during your lies, make sure to do it a little before and after your lie to make it seem less suspicious.

Learn to relax your muscles on command. Actors do this to overcome stage fright.

Don't search your opponent's face for clues as to whether or not they believe you. This is usually very obvious to them.

Don't be too defensive if you are accused of lying.

If lying is really just too difficult, try what some consider the "Elven Way of Lying." In other words, omit certain truths to imply something without directly saying a falsity. By using this method, the person you are lying to is technically "jumping to conclusions," so if you ever have to go back on what you say you can blame it on misinterpretation by the other person.

If you are going to lie to a teacher, a good thing to do is to mention the lie (as if it were the truth) to someone before or afterward. For example: If you did not do an English paper be sure to talk to a person in the class about it before the class and compare answers. This way when your teacher asks "Where is your paper?" you can say "I looked for it, but I can't find it." Chances are if the person you talked to before is a friend they'll back you up.

It may be helpful to become known as a sarcastic person. This way, if you ever get caught in a small lie, you can tell people you were being sarcastic and thought they knew that. Also, it is easier to lie if you do not think about yourself as a liar. If you are sarcastic, often you think of your lies as objects of witty sarcasm that someone believes.

Learn to cry on demand. Real tears are very convincing.

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You want success? You want a happy life? If yes, enjoy your life. People can not happy because them can not enjoy life. Here there are "10 Command" that you must grasp to be able to enjoy life.
first,
Do not consider yourself not worthy!

Do not knock yourself with compare your life to other people. Do not compare what you have with other people, do not compare what you feel with other people, and let's face it. Remember, each person have a context. Own your own situation that can not be beaten flat with others. Your unique, different and special. You have something valueable in yourself, which of course is not owned and different from other people. Therefore, love yourself. be proud because you like to be at this time.be yourself
Do not consider yourself not worthy!

Do not knock yourself with compare your life to other people. Do not compare what you have with other people, do not compare what you feel with other people, and let's face it. Remember, each person have a context. Own your own situation that can not be beaten flat with others. Your unique, different and special. You have something valueable in yourself, which of course is not owned and different from other people. Therefore, love yourself. be proud because you like to be at this time.be yourself

Do not follow other people!

Do not specify the purpose of your life exactly the purpose of life with other people. Not necessarily what is important for other people, it is also important for you.Not necessarily what is good for other people, also good for you. Only you know what's best for yourself. So,just do the thing that you trust and believe that right,of course the thing that you want and you need. However, it must not opposed to moral values.

Do not consider frivolous!

Do not assume anything frivolous, even small and simple, that occurred or that your taste and natural. If you're happy because this is a simple, do not assume that things are normal. take a look, that there are valuable lessons can be picking from there. If you're confused, do not consider frivolous. You can get something from there.Do not assume frivolous people, objects, or events, people or objects can make you more aware of and appreciate life. remember, without them life is meaningless. Remember, without them, life is meaningless.

Do not go down in the past or jump into the future!

It is true that you have experience in the past. True also that you have a dream for your future. But that is not true to your visions can return to the past. That you want to live like the first time. Also not true that you jump directly to the future. dreaming can have luxury cars, luxurious homes or property been abundant. What you must do is life today. This means, aware that this can work for your life. Therefore, face today with the best that you can. If you face today with the good way, you will be ready to face tomorrow. Do not let the past make you afraid day-to-day. do not let dream about the future kill your creativity today!

Do not surrender!

Do not surrender if you still have something that you can do to your life and other people. Do not despair if you still have the potential and ability that you can share. Try to achieve what you want. Do not despair! Nothing is really over... Nothing is really over ... till the moment you stop trying. until the moment you stop trying.

Do not be afraid to feel not perfect!

Why many people are not people successful? Because they fear they acknowledge shortcomings. Because they fear the fact that they receive no better and more powerful than others. If you do not know it, just say don't know.If you had not clever, not clever to say. nobody is perfect! Never afraid to realize and accept the fact that you are far from perfect.Such awareness will encourage you to continue to try. Continue trying to be better.

Do not be afraid to take risks!

there are No one thing that have no risk. What is your take and disconnect, little is as simple as anything, always contain risk. be brave to face risk. You know that if you love that person, other people will hate you. Would you stop? you don't need to do! face those risk! Again, do not be afraid to take risks. Risk that you face will teach you to be brave . Dare to tread, dare to try, and dare to take decisions. If not, you only go one step but two steps backward.

Do not smother love!

Do not ever rein in love just because you think that you can get to work hard.The fastest way to get love is to give love. Scorpion say, what you give, you get back. If you love the people, you will be loved. If you respect people, you will be respected. If you help people, you will be helped. If you defend people, you will be defended. If you also give something, you will also be given something, even if not exactly the same shape. the fastest thing that can make love gone is if you hold it too closely. great way to keep love is to give the love wings. Leaving the love flying and growing.

Do not discard dreams!

Do not remove your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose. Living without dream synonymous with the live without hope. If you live without hope, you will be living without a goal. You must have a dream that you always hope. You must have a hope so you always like to face this life. If you do not have a destination, you will fall into a empty hole. Your life will be meaningless. Have no meaning.Dreams and expectations are strong energy.

Do not haste!

Remember, life is not a race, but a Journey to be savored every step of the way. At that point in most, life is not a race or a race field, but a journey that must be enjoyed. You do not live to get the gold medal, but you live to enjoy each step to get gold medal. That life is not important in the results, but the process. And the process must be enjoyed. Should not be abandoned or deliberately eliminated. Therefore, do not tempted to immediately solve them. Enjoy every step that you do. In every detail of the process, you learn something.

im sory if there are wrong word, because i'm not very well at english language.....

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there are some tips that can make us always feel happy,not stress,feel enough, and very easy to do...
4 tips 4 u :
1.if you feel poor,
you just need to gather with people that more poor than you, you will feel more rich than them....

2.if you shame because people say you are fat,
just gather with people that more fat than you, you will look tiner than them.... hohoho...

3.if yo havuen't motorcycle but you have a bicycle,
just gather with people that just walking, you can a little proud because you use bike... hhahaaha...

4.if you feel headache,
gather with the corruptor that arrested, you will feel better...hahaha....



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