Tips 4 You

"Ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies." -- Oliver Goldsmith

Very few people recommend lying, but you might have your reasons. Whether you're an investigative journalist going undercover or you're being asked for your opinion on a horrendous bridesmaid dress that's already been paid for, the key to convincing someone you're telling the truth is to strike a good balance between fact and fiction. Ask yourself: "Who is more blameworthy, the liar or the believer in lies?"


Decide if what you are lying about is worth the effort and the potential consequences. It is a personal decision. You need to be realistic with yourself. It is easy to become a compulsive liar and ruin your life. Under what circumstances are you willing to risk damaging relationships, reputation, and future opportunities and do the benefits of telling the lie outweigh the risks?

If you know you're going to have to lie, think of some specific true thing (place, person, event, story) that your lie will fit into and use those details if you are questioned. This gives you a bank of specific details to draw on so you don't have to keep making things up as you go along. The more things you have to lie about to support your original lie, the more likely you are to be tripped up. Lying is a bit like chess--you must always think ahead.

Anticipate what the person you're lying to is going to ask, and be prepared with a response.

Force yourself to believe your lie is truth. This will make you naturally act as if you were telling the truth. The trick is convincing your sub-conscious mind that you're telling the truth. An example of this may be, "Did I wreck the car? Well, I drove it into a wall. So, the wall wrecked the car. I just moved it!" In the immortal words of George Costanza, "It's not a lie if you believe it."

Slide the lie into a casual conversation. It's better to lie to the person in advance than have him question you later on the same topic. That way, the victim's mind has hours, possibly days to fill in the blanks, and if he/she does come back to question the story, you'll have a much easier time as your victim starts in on you. If the victim discovers your misdeed before you explain yourself, they'll have time to deduce what has happened with a certain degree of certainty before they ever even question you.

Look the person you are lying to in the eye. Don't look around. There are many subliminal messages people send when lying. Learn what they are and how to avoid them. Most professional lie detectors (e.g. law enforcement professionals) know what they are, and you should, too. The cops will make small talk with you to establish what your "normal" behaviors are. When they get down to the serious subject matter, they look for deviances in behavior. Polygraph machines work the same way.

Practice lying in front a mirror or video camera. Observe your facial expressions. Try making your eyes go big and letting your mouth hang open a little for an innocent/shocked look. Also, practice looking like you're holding back tears. When you smile, show your teeth a little and crinkle up your eyes and cheeks. This is a 'sincere' smile, an ear-to-ear one.

Make a truthful admission. If you sense that someone else suspects you of lying, admit to something small or untrue. They will take the bait and think that that is all you were lying about.

Follow through. Never forget about your lie, and treat it like it actually happened. Mention it in conversations the way you would if it was true. Silence about a certain subject can arouse suspicion, especially in retrospect.

Telling a lie is a lot like story telling; take the original concept and expand on it as necessary. Always keep the lie believable and simple. Add detail but not too much. Too many details are an obvious indicator of a liar.

People are likely to believe your lies if you are telling them what they want to hear. Politicians and cheating spouses tell these kinds of lies all the time.

The best practice is watching how you tell the truth, and imitating that. If you tap your feet or fidget during your lies, make sure to do it a little before and after your lie to make it seem less suspicious.

Learn to relax your muscles on command. Actors do this to overcome stage fright.

Don't search your opponent's face for clues as to whether or not they believe you. This is usually very obvious to them.

Don't be too defensive if you are accused of lying.

If lying is really just too difficult, try what some consider the "Elven Way of Lying." In other words, omit certain truths to imply something without directly saying a falsity. By using this method, the person you are lying to is technically "jumping to conclusions," so if you ever have to go back on what you say you can blame it on misinterpretation by the other person.

If you are going to lie to a teacher, a good thing to do is to mention the lie (as if it were the truth) to someone before or afterward. For example: If you did not do an English paper be sure to talk to a person in the class about it before the class and compare answers. This way when your teacher asks "Where is your paper?" you can say "I looked for it, but I can't find it." Chances are if the person you talked to before is a friend they'll back you up.

It may be helpful to become known as a sarcastic person. This way, if you ever get caught in a small lie, you can tell people you were being sarcastic and thought they knew that. Also, it is easier to lie if you do not think about yourself as a liar. If you are sarcastic, often you think of your lies as objects of witty sarcasm that someone believes.

Learn to cry on demand. Real tears are very convincing.

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hello there, do you have read my post about " how to get a girl you like most" ? this topics maybe have same theme, but its different way....

Some people think that you can use just about any pick-up line to get a girl. Unfortunately it's much deeper than that. Read these easy steps and you are on your way to finding that perfect girl.
Courage. Most boys or some boys have a problem with speaking to the opposite sex. Actually, speaking to a girl is easy enough. Just shut out that little voice that says you can't do it. You can do it.

Style. Most girls won't date a dirty, grungy, ugly dude. Take into account what she seems to like based on her own style, but don't totally ignore your own personal preferences just to impress her. Fix yourself up. Comb or brush your hair. Take a shower. Brush your teeth. Smell good. Keep your own style. If it's a bit off, make jokes about it. Let her know when you know something is off or different, but that it's just a part of you. Don't change it: she might think it's cute. And in all of this please remember to laugh and have fun.

The Approach. You only get one chance at a first impression, so make it good. Don't use any cheesy pick-up lines...those almost never work. First, before approaching a girl do the "Breath Check." This is performed by cupping your hands together over your mouth and breathing into your hands and smelling your breath. Next, walk up to her and talk about how your cousin has the the same earrings as her and after a good conversation ask, "If I asked you to be my girlfriend, would you say yes?". If she says yes, that's good; if she says maybe, that's a yes and she's too shy to say yes or it might mean that she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying no; and if she says no, leave her alone and don't worry.

Let her talk. Rember girls love to talk!

Be honest. Remember to say what you feel.

If all else fails, just walk away and be deliberate. Relax, take your time. You'll have plenty more chances to try again with another person. Just make sure you learn from your mistakes!

Don't be a "Backstreet Boy". Girls don't like these guys who wait for the girls to come to them, do it yourself. You are the one that likes the girl, correct?

Ask her to do something nice and "cute". Girls love eating ice cream, going to the beach, or going to amusement parks. Bring her a surprise gift, like flowers or something you know she likes.

Be humble. Yes, although it is good to show your abilities and get some recognition from a girl, many girls dislike it when you act too belligerent, all-mighty, or think you are just too good for your own.

Pay attention to her. See what she likes; her music, her style, and learn about it. No matter what girl, she will always be flattered if you pick up on something she's into.

Communication is #1. If you can't talk comfortably to her, you probably aren't ready to ask her out yet. Get to know her a little first if you can.



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So, You like to get a girl, who is your class mate, colleague, girl at next door, a party chick or some one? You are a shy guy to start with girls? Keep this in your mind always "Girls aren't aliens to fear about". Kick your foolish shyness and fear at first...
Be a Man:
Do not degrade yourself with your inferior things. Look at the couples you see at beach, park & every where else.. If he can get a girl then why not you?

First Meet/Date/Conversation?
Buddy, You need to make her get relaxed. So, Do not stand in front of her like an escaped prisoner with rolling eyes. First relax yourself and understand the environment then start, Just say good day wishes, smile and move forward the conversation with interesting topics. There is a magic lie which always attracts a girl. Tell her that "You looks really nice. This dress perfectly suits you" end this line with a nice smile. This is your first trap.

What is your personality?
Do you able to describe about yourself with couple of lines? Do not try to makeup some fake characters into your personality. Just "Be Yourself"

Are you a Jerk or Nice guy?
Most of the girls feel nice guys are such boring personalities. Don't be a 100% funny guy always. It will create a joker impression about you instead of attractiveness.

Your conversations with a girl:
when a girl talk about something she like, an incident, a sad moment, her last summer trip, her pets or anything else, You need to follow "Shut Up and Listen" rule. Stop commenting, Stop giving suggestions, Stop giving advices, Stop arguments when she talk. Just shut up your bad mouth and listen what she says. She don't need a world's greatest idea from you when she talk something emotional. All she need is a caring person who respects what she is saying.

Be REAL:
Help an old lady cross the street. Be a role model for kids to look up to. Be kind to animals. Being considerate to others, no matter the age, gender, or species, is sure to make any girl's heart melt.

Be Talkative:
Girls like such an interesting guys who talk funny, naughty (sometimes), caring & polite. Just be social.

Know more about her:
You have to know about her most happiest/sad moments. Close friends, Family, Co-Workers, Her favorite food, her hobbies. Do not ask all of these to her like a survey guy. Just know it in different moments.

Your Thoughts:
If she say "Eminem is the only one who can rap very well. all others are pure crap!" Don't say "yes yes.. emimen is BEST.. I like him". Just say what you think really in polite way, This would be better, "Yes Eminem is nice.. But 50cent & Dr.Dre too perform nice, You must listen <50-C song name> look how great all are they.. these three guys rap nice.".

How to be an interested guy?
If she like something, then ask about her thoughts & comments about it. Let her to talk much about her favorite things. Do not let it to be a questioner session.

Learn to play at least a single musical instrument,
Learn to dance,
Have some interesting hobbies like boat riding, rock climbing,

Do not Hurt or Kid her friends:
Do not try lame jokes to kid her friends. As you are a new person to her, You need to be friendly to all of her friends too.

TRUST Yourself

First of all trust yourself, You can do it even millions of successful guys do. You lose nothing if she denies you. Just have a try learn the lesson "How to attract".

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How to overcome the feeling of excess that felt tired almost all day? someonene can feel in a daily routine, no matter how long he sleep / rest. Are there healthy steps that can be taken to overcome the feeling of tired of the excess, without involving elements of coffee or caffeine as the alternative?
the most thing caused feel tired because of shortages caused fluid (dehydration). Therefore, health experts always recommend that you consume at least 2 liters of water per day (more for the sports activities).

Consume too much sugar and fatty foods can also make someone easily tired and sleepy. Instead, you can multiply fibrous food consumption, fruits, vegetables and fresh.

In addition, the lack of sports also responsible for the exhaustion you feel. People who are diligent / routine exercise have more stamina, which prime the body's metabolism and also better than the less movement.

The last suggestion is start the day with optimism. The spirit in the morning you determine your emotions throughout the day. If you start a new day with a positive spirit, then you will be a day with the maximum.

i hope it will be useful for you, my friend....



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do you ever feel sore throat ? of course that makes you lose your voice. i will give you some tips to treat it ....
all you need is :

-1/4 cup lime water
-3/4 cup warm water

it's simple so much !!!
just mix the lime water with the warm water, then drink it up....
try to repeat it twice in a day...
you will get better soon...

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You want success? You want a happy life? If yes, enjoy your life. People can not happy because them can not enjoy life. Here there are "10 Command" that you must grasp to be able to enjoy life.
first,
Do not consider yourself not worthy!

Do not knock yourself with compare your life to other people. Do not compare what you have with other people, do not compare what you feel with other people, and let's face it. Remember, each person have a context. Own your own situation that can not be beaten flat with others. Your unique, different and special. You have something valueable in yourself, which of course is not owned and different from other people. Therefore, love yourself. be proud because you like to be at this time.be yourself
Do not consider yourself not worthy!

Do not knock yourself with compare your life to other people. Do not compare what you have with other people, do not compare what you feel with other people, and let's face it. Remember, each person have a context. Own your own situation that can not be beaten flat with others. Your unique, different and special. You have something valueable in yourself, which of course is not owned and different from other people. Therefore, love yourself. be proud because you like to be at this time.be yourself

Do not follow other people!

Do not specify the purpose of your life exactly the purpose of life with other people. Not necessarily what is important for other people, it is also important for you.Not necessarily what is good for other people, also good for you. Only you know what's best for yourself. So,just do the thing that you trust and believe that right,of course the thing that you want and you need. However, it must not opposed to moral values.

Do not consider frivolous!

Do not assume anything frivolous, even small and simple, that occurred or that your taste and natural. If you're happy because this is a simple, do not assume that things are normal. take a look, that there are valuable lessons can be picking from there. If you're confused, do not consider frivolous. You can get something from there.Do not assume frivolous people, objects, or events, people or objects can make you more aware of and appreciate life. remember, without them life is meaningless. Remember, without them, life is meaningless.

Do not go down in the past or jump into the future!

It is true that you have experience in the past. True also that you have a dream for your future. But that is not true to your visions can return to the past. That you want to live like the first time. Also not true that you jump directly to the future. dreaming can have luxury cars, luxurious homes or property been abundant. What you must do is life today. This means, aware that this can work for your life. Therefore, face today with the best that you can. If you face today with the good way, you will be ready to face tomorrow. Do not let the past make you afraid day-to-day. do not let dream about the future kill your creativity today!

Do not surrender!

Do not surrender if you still have something that you can do to your life and other people. Do not despair if you still have the potential and ability that you can share. Try to achieve what you want. Do not despair! Nothing is really over... Nothing is really over ... till the moment you stop trying. until the moment you stop trying.

Do not be afraid to feel not perfect!

Why many people are not people successful? Because they fear they acknowledge shortcomings. Because they fear the fact that they receive no better and more powerful than others. If you do not know it, just say don't know.If you had not clever, not clever to say. nobody is perfect! Never afraid to realize and accept the fact that you are far from perfect.Such awareness will encourage you to continue to try. Continue trying to be better.

Do not be afraid to take risks!

there are No one thing that have no risk. What is your take and disconnect, little is as simple as anything, always contain risk. be brave to face risk. You know that if you love that person, other people will hate you. Would you stop? you don't need to do! face those risk! Again, do not be afraid to take risks. Risk that you face will teach you to be brave . Dare to tread, dare to try, and dare to take decisions. If not, you only go one step but two steps backward.

Do not smother love!

Do not ever rein in love just because you think that you can get to work hard.The fastest way to get love is to give love. Scorpion say, what you give, you get back. If you love the people, you will be loved. If you respect people, you will be respected. If you help people, you will be helped. If you defend people, you will be defended. If you also give something, you will also be given something, even if not exactly the same shape. the fastest thing that can make love gone is if you hold it too closely. great way to keep love is to give the love wings. Leaving the love flying and growing.

Do not discard dreams!

Do not remove your dreams. To be without dreams is to be without hope; to be without hope is to be without purpose. Living without dream synonymous with the live without hope. If you live without hope, you will be living without a goal. You must have a dream that you always hope. You must have a hope so you always like to face this life. If you do not have a destination, you will fall into a empty hole. Your life will be meaningless. Have no meaning.Dreams and expectations are strong energy.

Do not haste!

Remember, life is not a race, but a Journey to be savored every step of the way. At that point in most, life is not a race or a race field, but a journey that must be enjoyed. You do not live to get the gold medal, but you live to enjoy each step to get gold medal. That life is not important in the results, but the process. And the process must be enjoyed. Should not be abandoned or deliberately eliminated. Therefore, do not tempted to immediately solve them. Enjoy every step that you do. In every detail of the process, you learn something.

im sory if there are wrong word, because i'm not very well at english language.....

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